Tough conversations are part of any relationship—whether you're navigating misunderstandings, unmet needs, or moments where the vibe just feels off. Knowing how to bring up a sensitive topic with your partner can make all the difference in whether the conversation brings you closer or drives a wedge.

That’s where DEARMAN comes in. This tool from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is designed to help you communicate your needs effectively, respectfully, and with clarity—especially when emotions are high or the stakes feel personal.

Let’s walk through how you can use DEARMAN in your relationship, step by step.

Healthy relationships thrive when both partners feel seen, supported, and aligned—especially when it comes to personal values. But what does it actually look like to explore values together once you're in a committed relationship?

Let’s break down how to talk about your values, support each other’s, and stay connected without losing your individuality.